Third Place People

Right now I’m sitting in a “Third Place” –  Starbucks.  The basic concept of a “Third Place” is that these are spaces that people gather outside of their first space (home) and second space (work).

Recently, as I sat in Starbucks, I chatted with Tom.  Tom works from home and travels a lot for work, but he starts every day by driving into Starbucks to get a cup of coffee and to meet up with other regulars.  They typically talk about the day’s big stories.  This is Tom’s “Third Place” and it connects him to a community that laughs and learns together.

I remember learning about this social concept years ago. The first instinct for a church leader is to figure out how to leverage this insight into connecting more people into a faith community.  The temptation may be to simply redesign church facilities to create “Third Places” for people to come to.  I think that making space more effective to create connection is a great idea. However, there are already “Third Places” in most of our towns and cities.


What if we became “Third Place People?”  What if we went to already existing “Third Places” and belonged to the tribe or group associated with that space?  What if we crossed cultural and social boundaries (missionary posture) instead of merely insisting on others to cross those same boundaries to participate in our community of faith?  Kinda sounds like Jesus, who moved into our neighborhood.

So as I sit in Starbucks I am asking myself and God, “How do you want me to be a blessing with those here?”  How can I be a “Third Place” person?


I asked, “Vicki, would you say that I am an optimistic person?” She replied with, “Not really.”

My mom routinely preached being positive to me:

“No one likes to hang out with a negative person.”

One of my mentors used to yell out, “Attitude Check” and we responded with “Praise the Lord!”

I even read “Life Is Tremendous” by Charlie “Tremendous” Jones back in the day!

I always thought of myself as an optimist (maybe I was overly optimistic) so I was disappointed at Vicki’s response to me.  But, I knew it was true.

How did pessimism claw into my thoughts and words?

I am optimistic that 2011 will be different.  There will be a rebirth of my attitude.  I claimed “positivity” as my theme for the year.  I need it, but I think the people around me will appreciate it even more.  I desire to be a life bringer, to see solutions, to give others courage, to believe the best in people, and to live more out of faith.

“Attitude Check?!”    🙂