Here are some more random pastor thoughts that many of you will not be interested in. I’m doing this for my own mental health. Ha! But, seriously it helps.
When I get together with other pastors and we compare notes on our church communities the issue of “regular” participation comes up. “Regular” participation (I can’t bring myself to say “attendance”) has shifted dramatically. It used to mean getting together weekly (at least) and now it seems to be closer to once/month. In fact I’ve heard that some folks consider our church their church home, but they may have gathered with us once in the last couple years. So we (the church family) are like their mechanic. You hope to never see your mechanic, but if something breaks down you want a trustworthy place to get some help (which is welcomed with loving open arms). There are a lot of reasons why “regular” participation has changed and I don’t want to get into a discussion on church gatherings and their importance, or lack thereof, in this little post.
But one thing is often on the lips of pastors when they talk about this issue of less church participation: sport leagues. This is a doozy. Oh boy! Pastors are concerned about the amount of time, energy, and money families are pouring into sports leagues (that often take them away from participating in the church family).
Times have changed and school teams just aren’t enough. Things have gotten more competitive and there are increased opportunities to play and improve in a sport. There is increased pressure to participate more and more in more competitive sport leagues. Sometimes a parent may feel like they aren’t a good parent if they don’t make sure their kid has all the best opportunities. I love to watch my kids play sports and I confess that I can find myself living through their experience. Every family is different and value different things.
Pastors talk to one another about this issue and our concerns, but not very often to the wider church. Why? Because people get mad. Perhaps it has become a full blown idol… a good thing that has become an ultimate thing. I’m afraid to even write about this stuff because I can feel the waves of anger. Surfs Up!
Let’s set aside the whole “regular” church gathering part of this… The truth is, it is hard to be a parent and it is hard to know how to spend your most precious commodity: your time. My wife and I wrestle with this stuff too and we have to try to get perspective. At the end of the day we want our kids to love Jesus, to live a life of love and integrity, and pursue what God has for them. If that involves sports, music, church activities, school clubs, or any other really good character shaping thing – great! But, if good things hinder the most important things (what are they for your family?), then we need to make adjustments.
Do you still like me? I’m a people pleaser so I hope you do. If not, just imagine me saying, “just kidding” after all of this and consider it a joke. Or is it? Ha Ha
Last thing (if you are still reading this – congrats!!!):
When I get together with other pastors in our area, I am moved by the love that each person has for their faith family and wider community. I hear the prayer requests about marriages crumbling, people facing a health crisis, pain from loss, and a deep desire for the church community to know God and grow with Him. The pastors I hang around with are not primarily driven by attendance figures, but love, and seeking to follow God’s Spirit. I close with this thought because I fear that these little posts from my “pastor” perspective may seem like whining about getting people to get on board with the church. Yuck.
Perhaps we don’t say it clearly enough at times, but the Apostle Paul summarizes the motivation in Galatians 4:19: “Oh, my dear children! I feel as if I’m going through labor pains for you again, and they will continue until Christ is fully developed in your lives.”
I want this for my family, my faith family, and my community. We may not get it right all the time, but we are trying to join God in pursuing this.