Random Access Mind

So I wanted to just throw out some stuff I’m thinking/reading/doing. I’m trying to make this blog/writing more of a discipline so here ya go…cottage pic

  • I’m currently at the cottage, of some friends, near Fremont, MI. They are generous and allow me to spend some time up here for a few days each Summer. I try to do some reading, thinking, processing, and planning while here. I try to get out on the kayak and slowly make my way around the lake. My favorite moment is sitting in the middle, of this little lake, and being still…  Can ya feel the serenity?  It is a moment in which everything slows down and things are put back into perspective.  I’m thankful to my wife and family for blessing this little getaway for my soul.
  • My wife and I went to the Duran Duran show in Detroit. I have been a Duran Duran fan since I was around twelve years old. Their music videos completely mesmerized me as a middle school kid. I remember an older teen coming to our house trying to play the “Union of the Snake” single backwards on my dad’s turn-table. Nothing.  Ha!  Anyways, we had a fantastic time and Vicki and I made a commitment to go do fun stuff like that together more often.
  • This past Sunday I changed my message to speak to the prejudice/race discussions going on in our country. I found it difficult to share, because I love my faith family and I desire for every single person to go on the journey of wrestling with the issues of the day together. Our world has increasingly become polarizing and unfortunately being able to put ourselves in the shoes of one another is difficult. I hope the message was an opportunity to reflect and an invitation to join Jesus in bringing people together. Jesus is the great reconciler who calls us to be His reconciliation people!
  • Getting excited about the new Watermark site.  I love being involved in starting things and dreaming up new endeavors. I like rallying people together for something needed and new. The new Watermark site will begin in September and then have a more public launch in October.  This Sunday we are going to have people check out the space we are going to gather in (The Trillium) off Van Wagoner and West of 31.  I am most excited to hear that the emerging launch team is praying for family and friends to come to know and follow Jesus.  To learn more about this – CHECK THIS OUT
  • Praying for the Haiti team as they are serving with our partners in Haiti. 🙂

Anyways, thanks for stopping in!

David P. Deur Daddy

Well it is Father’s Day.

Time to read on Facebook and other social media platforms that someone’s dad is the greatest dad in the world.

I better get a card that says that. Even if it is definitely not true.

But, I would be a better father if I could be more like the dad God gifted me.

So, here is a list of things that make my dad a father worth celebrating and emulating.

1) He loves God and seeks to grow in His relationship with Jesus.

This may seem like the correct “Christian answer”, but this is foundational to many of the other qualities that make my dad the man he is. I have seen my dad grow more and more into the image of Jesus as he has gotten older. I have witnessed more love, patience, wisdom, gentleness, and compassion from my dad as he has aged. Jesus changes people and I’m thankful for the way my dad has leaned into Him.

2) He asks questions and listens. 

My dad is genuinely interested in what is going on in the lives of others. He is a gifted listener and he seeks to understand. This has been an area of growth for him over the years and it has developed into a remarkable strength. This is what makes him an outstanding coach and an even better dad. As a dad, I recognize that I make statements more than I ask questions. I try to fix and tell more than understand. I get impatient and assume I know the answer instead of listening. I thank God for the way my dad has modeled these important skills for me.

3) He apologizes.

One of my vivid memories of my dad is when I was in elementary school My dad got angry and harsh with me and I was sent to my room. My dad came in the room and sat next to me on my bed and apologized for how he acted and wept. I respected him and felt safe with him because he was strong enough to admit when he was wrong. He still seeks to make things right when he fears he has messed up. I appreciate his ability to apologize because ha understands his need for grace and therefore, humbly offers it to others.

4) He supports and encourages. 

My dad is a gift to me. He asked me if he could come and volunteer his time to come alongside me on our Watermark team. He explained that he wasn’t wanting money, or position or anything – except to support and encourage me and our faith family. He has been a tremendous help in critical areas that he may not naturally enjoy, but it has made a significant impact. I hope that I will be able to follow in his footsteps someday and support and encourage my kids and younger leads when my hairline is a lot lower.

5) He shows and makes a point to say, “I love you.”

One of the decisions my dad made when we were young kids was to always verbalize his feelings. My dad hugs me. My dad kisses me. My dad tells me he loves me. My dad has blessed me and told me he is proud of me. I am especially thankful that he has written a letter of memories and blessings to each of my kids every Christmas. These letters make it clear that they are loved and beloved gifts. I am thankful for his commitment to show and verbalize his love.

There are more than these five reasons why I could celebrate my dad today. I could describe his sense of humor, I could speak of his ability to affirm and encourage others and I could remark on my appreciation for teaching me to love the Detroit Tigers and hate the Yankees.

So, on this Father’s Day, I am thankful and I celebrate David P. Deur.

A dad worth following.

Because he follows Christ.

Happy Father’s Day!

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Return of the Blog

So I’m thinking about being more regular in writing online again. Back in 2003 I started blogging in the midst of a lot of exciting and challenging transitions. That year we had a son (Harrison), left a church position (All Shores / formerly Spring Lake Wesleyan), moved into Grand Haven, and launched a new church community (Watermark).

Blogging was relatively new to me and I was blown away at the idea that I could write stuff and chronicle my experiences and interact with others about what I was thinking and learning. I blogged regularly for about 3-4 years and then it became a trickle and then stopped. I moved on to Facebook and Twitter for howling at the moon. My old blog (of a younger version of me) is found at DEURTY.

Later I set this website up so I could share different things, but I haven’t made it a priority to take time to write about stuff.  But, recently I reread chunks of my past blog and I recognized the power of blogging/online journaling/writing.  I think that I need to pick up the blog idea again as a discipline to process ideas, share what I’m learning, and  encourage conversation. I’ve been waiting to figure out some really cool format or focus, but I think it is better to just see where this takes me…. or I’ll be sitting here a year from now in the same spot.  Sometimes you have to just start.

Anyways, I’m going to write stuff here. So, let’s try this again.  If no one reads this regularly… at least I know it will be helpful for me.

I apologize in advance for the grammar.

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